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Friday, February 3, 2012

Igbo Community In Atalanta USA Pays Tribute To Late General Ojukwu

 
The Ojukwu Memorial celebrations, in Atlanta GA, Jan 28th 2012, is a remarkable story of the coming together of the entire Igbo Communities in Georgia and beyond to pay tribute to an illustrious Igbo son, a courageous young man who was in his early thirties at the start of the Biafra war, but in his wisdom atfirst did everything possible to avoid war by negotiating with Nigerian authori-ties in Aburi Ghana to harsh out acceptable and fair system of governance for all citizens and regions of Nigeria following the 1966, and 1967-70 genocide against Ndigbo. After an agreement was reached, the Nigerian side failed to live up to the agreement which they signed in Aburi Ghana.
 
The emergence of the Republic of Biafra in May 1967 was simply inevitable as the Biafrans killed in large numbers in many parts of Nigeria sought to pursue independence from a country where their safety could not be guaranteed by the central federal government.
 
The passing of General Ojukwu the former Biafran head of state brought back in magnified fashion, memories of the struggle for Biafran Independence. As Igbos and other Nigerians gather at the Igbo Community Building in Mableton Georgia, one thing became certain that the Ojukwu Memorial activities would exert an extraordinary uniting force on all the Igbo Communities in Georgia.
The Ikemba and Eze Igbo Gburugburu was indeed a uniting force for Ndigbo while he was alive, unfolding events since his death have also illustrated that Ikemba’s name would continue to exert gravitational uniting force on Ndigbo even after his death. For the Igbos in Georgia, Jan 28th 2012, would go down in history as the day in which all our people rallied in brotherhood and sisterhood to give honor to one whom honor is due.
 
This story would be told in two parts.
 
Part one would comprise of the preparations of the Ojukwu Memorial and cover the highly educative and informative Symposium and the Requiem Mass. Part two would cover the Wake Ceremonies including the emotional final sa-lute to General Ojukwu by over 80 veteran members of the Biafran Army and Nurses who were treated as VIPs with reserved section.
The Biafran Army and Nurses drew large and sustained applause and standing ovation by the largest capacity crowd to be assembled yet in Igbo Community Building. But this story is for part two of this report.
The success of the Ojukwu Memorial event in Atlanta is one more evidence and testimony that given the leadership, any group of people can come together and unite for a given cause. The Igbo Union Leadership in Atlanta under President Victor Anyanwu and Vice president Ada Ngoddy, Ojukwu Memorial PRO, Michael Odiakosa and the other Executives of Igbo Union Atlanta rallied and brought together all the Igbo Communities in Atlanta Georgia to join hands and work to give our departed son and father Ikemba a hero’s farewell.On Friday morning, the day before the event I went to the Igbo Community Building to deliver some items and Sir Victor Anyanwu, Mrs Nk Oranika (AKA Holiwood) a representative for Otu Umunne Association and Mazi Charles Okabalam were already there as preparations for the day was already in progress.
 
Sir Victor Anyanwu was ob-viously directing the preparation activities, and later in the day Michael Odiakosa the Ojukwu Memorial PRO also arrived to give a lending hand.
 
The Stage was being constructed in line with suggestions from Videographer Obi Okezie, while Charles Okabalam was busy moving and arranging things. Mexican Amigo friends were busy re-painting the inside of the hall with immaculate white paint as part of the Igbo Union tribute in honor of Ikemba. On Saturday morning preparations again began in earnest.
 
Mrs. Oranika arrived at the hall at 6am, and worked for about 6 hours in the Building alone until about noon when she was joined by Attorney C.T Nwosu along with two other volunteers. By mid afternoon all preparations were winding down. When I arrived at the hall at about 3 pm I found an incredible finished and beautifully decorated stage thanks to Nk. Oranika, the stage wasadorably draped in coordinated Biafran colors of black, red and green, inside the elevated stage were twobeautifully enlarged and decorated photos of Ikemba Ojukwu in full Biafran Army General’s regalia taking a salute.

The photos were provided by the Umu Ada Igbo Organization Atlanta Georgia. On the right side of the stage were two flags, the American flag, and the Nigerian flag laid out side by side. On the left side of the stage were more photos of Ojukwu and a huge Biafran flag which was sewn together the previous night by Mrs Oranika with help from Paul Oranika Jr who designed the Biafra sun inserted into the Biafra flag.
 
The music stage and all the electronic equipment were all assembled on the opposite side of the stage.
At the kitchen area, Vice President of Igbo Union Atlanta Mrs Ada Ngoddy was in control of volunteers who were ready to serve, including Ms Chioma Ogueri Executive Director Miss Igbo USA, Mrs. Grace Clark, Mrs. Rita Udechukwu, Mrs Rita Orji, Mrs Ugo Anikpe, Mrs Dorathy Orizu, and Okabalam children.
 
These army of volunteers served everybody at the Ojukwu Symposium which commenced at about4.15 Pm. The Chairman of the Planning Committee, Nze Joe Eto, the Co Chair of the planning committee Attorney Charles Onyirimba, the Chairmanof the Symposium Committee Prof. Martin Okafor, and other committee members including Attorney Mike Okeke and Mazi Paul Okechukwu Oranika were all ready.
 
Chairman Joe Eto called things to order with a brief remark and then handed over to Prof. Martin Okafor and Attorney Charles Onyirimba who were the moderators for the event, the Panelists were introduced to their positions.Soon the presentation took center stage. Here are the abstracts of what topics and titles were presented at the Symposium; the full papers would be published at a later date.
 
The first panelist Dr. Mike Okeke was called up to make his presentation entitled “Ojukwu the Man”.
His presentation focused on personalaspects of Ojukwu’s life. Dr. Okeke narrated in great detail Gen Ojukwu’s genealogy,his education, career in civil service and his entry into the Nigerian Army, and emergence as the champion of Igbo cause.Next Panelist Reverend Chima Ekeke PHD, presented a paper titled “Moses, Ojukwu and the Quest for a Joshua “in which the author narrated the life, leadership and legacy of General Ojukwu from a religious perspective.
 
Dr. Obiagbosogu Ignatius Ebbe was called up for his presentation entitled “General Odumegwu Ojukwu, Footprints on the Sands of Times on Nigerian Politics and Igbo Political Culture”.
The author went on to describe the human nature of General Ojukwu through his Biafran experiences, and discussed Ojukwu’s achievements and failures along with his great sacrifices to the Igbo nation.

Innocent Ukabam PHD was called up to render his presentation entitled “Stand for something or Fall for Anything”.
The author among many things, discussed the fact that Ojukwu stood for Equality and Justice, and as a Biafran leader was a very courageous leader regardless of all the odds, and that the people of Biafrabelieved in him, even in death the author maintains that Ojukwu still evokes unparalleled passion, love, loyalty and controversy.
 
Dame Unuaku Ekwegbalu Esq, delivered an interesting account of the war, titled “Triumph over Adversity” Mrs Ekwegbalu sp
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Super Falcons Midfielder, Felicia Eze Dies At 38

Football enthusiasts on Thursday in Lagos expressed shock over the death of a former Super Falcons’ player, Felicia Eze, who died in Anambra, aged 38.

In separate interviews with newsmen, the fans described Eze's death as a great loss to the country.
A former Super Falcons' Coach, Rolandson Odeh, said the news of the midfielder's death was shocking, and that she died at a time female football needed her expertise.
 “She died at a stage when female football needed her expertise to develop; when I heard the news, I was shocked because I spoke to her some months back,” Odeh said.

Peter Oguche, a board member of the Nigeria Women Premier League (NWPL), said the late player would be remembered for her contributions to the team.
 “I cannot comprehend why she had to die at this time; she is just too young but who are we to question God?,” Oguche said.

Nnenna Etim, also a former Super Falcons’ assistant coach, described the player's death as “shocking”, and a sad way to start the New Year.
 “This is a very sad way to begin the year, I pray that God will give her family the fortitude to bear the loss,” she said.
 Eze was a member of the Super Falcons' team to the Greece 2004 Olympic Games where Nigeria got to the quarter-finals.

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Wednesday, February 1, 2012

The Entertainment World Mourns Another Icon, As "Soul Train" Creator Dies

Don Cornelius who famously created "Soul Train" was found dead in his Sherman Oaks, CA home this morning ... and law enforcement sources reports it appears he committed suicide.

Cops discovered the body at around 4 AM PT. Law enforcement sources reports that - Cornelius died from a gunshot wound to the head and officials believe the wound was self-inflicted.

We're told Cornelius was taken to the hospital where he was pronounced dead. "Soul Train" changed the landscape of television when it debuted in 1971 and ran until 2006.

As i write this post, my heart is guarded by the shadows of pain, because i am one of your biggest fan. Rest in peace Don!!

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Tuesday, January 31, 2012

Teju Babyface Bereaved.

Comedian Teju Babyface, whose job is to put smiles on people's faces, is not smiling as he has lost his aged 73 years old father in death. Prince Jacob Gbadegesin Oyelakin gave up the ghost on 31st December 2011.

Burial arrangements are on-going, we extend our condolences to Teju.
May his soul R.I.P.

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Wednesday, January 25, 2012

Nollywood Star Lekan Lekinson Dead After Battle With Diabetes - Not Again


Not again, we have to say good bye to another Nollywood star.
According to Entertainment Express, the actor died today after a long battle with Diabetes ... RIP
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Monday, January 23, 2012

African Student Trampled To Death In A Night Club


A young and promising Northampton University student, Nabila Nanfuka, was trampled to death as clubgoers stampeded for the doors to exit a nightclub on Tuesday night.

The event, Wickedest Skank, was organised by promoter DNA as a university coach rave and held at the Lava and Ignite nightclub in Northampton. Students from universities all over England, including Luton, Hertfordshire, Leicester, Kent, Coventry, Birmingham, Manchester and Northampton attended the sold out event.


Reports suggest that tensions began to rise at the end of the rave as clubgoers tried to leave the venue which had exceeded maximum capacity. Fights began to break out causing crowds to rush out of Lava and Ignite leading to a stampede.
Club security tried their best to deal with the situation by diverting some of the crowd through a back entrance but nothing could be done to control the overwhelming clamour which ensued.Nabila, who was 22 and from north west London, was a well loved third year Leisure & Tourism student of Northampton University. In the chaos that quickly engulfed the venue, she was not as lucky as others and fell to the floor where she was trampled to death. Eye witnesses say four paramedics carried her body into an ambulance. Some reports say she was not breathing at the time. It was later announced to friends by her boyfriend, Emmanuel Sanni, that Nabila had been pronounced dead.
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Friday, January 20, 2012

VIDEO:London Host Requiem Mass For Late Dim Ojukwu

To commemorate the death of late Dim Ojukwu, the Igbo communities UK will be having a REQUIEM MASS for late DIM Chukwuemeka Odumegwu Ojukwu at the Westminster Cathedral in London SW1P 1QW on Saturday 21st January 2012,The event, which will start by 2pm, is expected to attract many dignitaries and special guests from Nigeria and around the world.

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Nollywood Records Another Death, As Veteran Actor David Ihezie Dies

Nollywood has recorded yet, another death for 2012. Veteran Nollywood Actor David Ihezie dying in his Enugu residence after a protracted illness. 

Chairman, Enugu State chapter of the Actors Guild of Nigeria (AGN), Ofiafulugu Mbaka, confirmed the death of the prolific actor to Vanguard yesterday.
 
According to Mbaka, “Ihezie’s death is another big loss to the entertainment sector and Nigeria as a whole. I was made to understand that he had been sick before he finally passed on.
Obviously, nobody would be happy when somebody dies. It’s shocking and there is nothing anyone can do.” Ihezie’s corpse has since been deposited at Ifem Medical centre, Enugu.
 
May his gentel soul rest in perfect peace!!
 
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Monday, January 9, 2012

PICTURE:Police Kills Protestant; Leave Two Others Severely Injured

This is a picture of dead Ademola who is an Okada rider. The young man was killed this morning after police shot him dead. Eye witnesses account says the Heavily armed men of the Nigeria Police Force were shooting sporadically and the DPO of Area G in Ogba was personally involved in the shooting and infact the DPO was the main hit man.

What is happening? Questions continues to cast many minds to loom!! Below is a picture of the Young man before he was shot dead.



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Monday, December 26, 2011

Angry Nigerian Children Write President Jonathan Over Recent Blast

1-year old baby killed at the St Theresa church bombing yesterday in Madalla
Angry Nigerian Children Write President Jonathan Over Recent Blast.
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Dear Mr. President: We should say Merry Christmas but we are not your goverment, we are not in the business of deception. After almost ten hours of gathering your thoughts to speak on the bomb blasts that rocked the nation yesterday, you still fell short of your own very low standards.What did you intend to say when you said Bomb Blasts are a burden we must live with? Why do you bother to budget over a trillion for security if we must live the burden of insecurity? How come you are still a president? We do not blame you, we blame our older ones who were stupid enough to think that where you come from and your religion was all you needed to be a competent president.
They are crying now. We all cried yesterday on the darkest Christmas day of our short lives.
While we cried and left Christmas postponed for another year, we watched as you danced your life away like there was no tomorrow. Is it true that all you care about is the fact that you are the president so whatever can happen should happen. Last night we prayed for you. We prayed that the white men should be able to make common sense so that we can budget for it and then you will have it in abundance. As it is, it is obvious sir that you are grossly lacking in common sense.
If you weren’t, you would never come out to tell a mourning nation that it should get ready to live with the burden of destruction and insecurity. That was utterly insensitive and even the dumbest of our mates, fellow Nigerian children would never descend that low to an unprecedented level of cluelessness.
We understand this is not a sane country, if this was a sane country, your ilk will not be in a job. Your security chiefs, yourself and your cabinet would have been throwing resignation letters left right and centre. But then, here is a place where people are satisfied with just being in positions, that they are clueless about what to do in such positions does not matter.
Mr. President, Boko Haram defeated you in 2011. What plans are you making for 2012? Do you realise they have since improved while your security tactics remain stop and search? Do you realise they are far more coordinated than ever before? Have you thought of engaging more intelligence in curbing this menace instead of just mere brute? Yes, you have issues with concentrating for long, why not budget for a concentrator? That way you are conditioned to at least focus on being the president of Nigeria instead of our national chief chef? You are wondering where that came from? It came from cassava bread sir. You chose the menu for 2012 but we hope you realise that Boko Haram certainly has a menu.
Please Mr. President, they will look to attack again in the New Year, do what you have never done before, get your security chiefs to prevent that by all means. Contrary to your assertion, we are not prepared to live with the burden of bomb blasts. Get yourself to work and stop excusing your inability to deal with Boko Haram on the premise that they are a necessity. What is that? If you cannot lead and be a president, help yourself and resign. Please take your vice-president along. You are a twin set of incompetence.
This letter has been written with kind words, not because we are in the mood to be nice to you but because we are children and respect is a value we want to live with but our lack of it sometimes is a burden you must live with as long as you force us to live with your Boko Haram burden.
We wrote you a letter on subsidy yesterday but we figured it would be better to send this before you get our other letter. As long as your cluelessness reigns supreme in this country, we will always remind you of our angst and stake in this nation. It is not by force to live in Aso Rock. So if you must, do the right things, say the right things and learn to get the basic things right.
The Bomb Blasts darkened our Christmas but your response dampened our mood even further. This is not the way to lead a people. If you need help, we will nominate one of us to offer you words of wisdom for free. As it is, you look overwhelmed by the mere job of providing security for Nigeria let alone the other duties you swore to carry out for Nigeria.
Action point: Sack yourself sir, and take Arc. Namadi Sambo along. It is a good place to start.
Signed:
Association of Conscious Nigerian Children (ACNC)

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Sunday, December 4, 2011

How 11yr old, Morenike Toye Died Of Neglect In A Boarding School


11yr old Morenike Toye died from cerebral malaria and acute renal failure in November 2008, 2months after she joined Faith Academy. According to her parents, she was given tablets which she lost, when she was given another set she threw up, and because the school carers weren't monitoring her, they didn't know this. They didn't inform her parents until she had gone subconscious, and didn't even do a blood test. When they tried to help her regain conciousness, no one knew which drugs she had already taken. 

She was eventually transferred to a general hospital but even then, there were complications due to lack of facilities. The Toye's later found out that Cerebral malaria was a common occurrence in the school. The school offered scholarship to their other son, but the family rejected this and are still kin to fight in court.

Her parents are presently running a website, 'Movement Against Negligence in Boarding Schools' MANIBS and are planning to build a malaria centre for children. They are also hoping to make a movie titled “Church is not Heaven”, to share her story.


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Saturday, December 3, 2011

18 Yrs Old Nigerian, Stephen Ojerinola Murdered In The UK. Two Face Charges


The remains of a young Nigerian man, Stephen Ojerinola were found in a garden in South-East London on Sunday the 20th of November and test results showed the 18-year-old had been stabbed to death.

Two men Lee Davies, 35, of Blackheath, South-East London, and William Regan, 36, of Lynsted Gardens have been charged with Mr Ojerinola's murder.

Stephen went missing in May this year.

The garden where his remains were found

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Thursday, December 1, 2011

Ghanaian Rapper Commits Suicide After Long Time Girlfriend Dumps Him For Another



According to major Ghanaian news platforms, an upcoming Ghanaian rapper from TemaGabe Smalls ended his life on Tuesday after his long time girlfriend abandoned him for another man. The 21years old got very emotional , even his recent Facebook updates revealed this. Some of them read;
"Seeing the one you love love someone else is like having a dove in a cage. ..you love it soo much,you do everything to make sure its safe and happy but deep within it wants to fly away,soo nothin you do pleases it.....You jux gotto let it go,mourn it as if it was dead and let da pain it left you Go."
"Some People will Like you,Others won't Like you.......It's just a Normal Thing in Life.....If we get used to this Fact,Life will be as Easy as 1 2 3"
"Chocolate & Pain"
"Ma New Single 'A HEARTBREAK SONG' comin soon"
"Ironing clothes for church tomorrow....Been a while....Father Lord Forgive me my trespasses"
Allegedly, Gabe Small left a suicide note before taking his life, click READ MORE to see it ...




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Tuesday, November 29, 2011

Bianca Ojukwu Speaks On Death Of Her Husband + A Nigerian's Open Letter To Bianca


The late Dim Chukwuemeka Odumegwu-Ojukwu’s widow, Bianca, spoke on her husband’s death. She revealed that her late husband, who had been in a London hospital since December 2010, was feeling better and even planning a return to Nigeria for full recovery, hence his death came as a surprise to the family.

Since we're still discussing about Bianca, you may want to read this open letter written some months back by a jobless Nigerian (I call her jobless because knowing so much about a person can be quite scary). The letter was addressed to Bianca before the death of her husband.

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Dear Mrs Bianca Ojukwu: I hope this letter meets you and your beautiful family in good health. Yes, I know that the patriarch of your family is right now battling for his life. And I pray that the good Lord grant him the strength to overcome this difficult time.
I will use the above quoted Igbo proverbs to address my missive to you. “Ukwu jie agu, mgbada a bia ya ugwo” as you probably know, means that when a tiger is demobilized, the antelope becomes his creditor. Sadly, this can be said of the Ikemba of Nnewi in his present condition. The tiger is right now lying on a sick bed in a London hospital fighting for his life. And in his absence, many things that wouldn’t have transpired in his home are commonplace. The most notable, and the one I’m concerned about, because it’s public knowledge is your recent appointment as President Goodluck Jonathan’s Senior Special Assistant on Diaspora Affairs. Congratulations on your appointment, and I shall speak more of it later in this letter. The second proverb, “Ufufe fee, a hu ike okuku,” means that when the wind blows, the chicken’s rump is exposed. In case you didn’t know, many people are wondering whether you married the Ikemba of Nnewi because you loved him or because of his ability to keep you at the corridors of power.
I write this letter with due respect for your person and I want to tell you how we met. It was in late 1988 and I was glued to my family black and white television watching the Most Beautiful Girl In Nigeria pageant. I didn’t really care about who would be the winner because you ladies were all beautiful in your ways and hues, in my young opinion. You came out tops. I loved your gait and tried walking like you for a long time until I gave it up. You were you and I was I – two people perfect the way we were created. I loved everything about you and read up every article in the newspapers and magazines about you. Yes, I read the gossip columns that chronicled the relationship between you and Dim Odumegwu Chukwuemeka Ojukwu, the Ikemba of Nnewi. I loved the fact that you were defiant of their criticisms and stuck to your man. I read that you even defied your father, the late Governor Christian Onoh, because you loved Ojukwu. Apparently, you loved your man enough to stick with him through thick and thin. Eventually, I read that you married him and your father refused to attend your wedding. I saw pictures of your wedding. Your brother stood in for your father who vehemently opposed the marriage and allegedly disowned you. You were blessed with two lovely kids, a set of twins, a boy and a girl. Mother of fertility smiled on your union again and you had another child for the Ikemba. Something moved in your father and he later forgave you and gave his blessings for your union to the Ikemba a few years after your white wedding. Why am I saying all these things?
First, you are a public figure, and unfortunately, what that means is that your private affairs are often made public. And many people take interest in the lives of public figures. Magazines make fortunes from chronicling the lives and adventures of celebrities. So, please pardon the fact that this young woman is aware of the little details of your affair and life with the Ikemba. I am fully aware that you married a public figure. Dim Chukwuemeka Ojukwu is not only your husband he is also (at least that’s how many people view him) the leader of Ndigbo – he’s Ezeigbo Gburugburu. Hence, things that pertain to him can easily be replicated in other Igbo homes. That is the reason why as an Igbo woman, I chose to write you this open letter. I do so with the uttermost respect for your person. I pray that I don’t sound condescending for that is the last thing on my mind for you. I admired you greatly as a young girl. I still admire your courage and fortitude in staying with your man through his travails. But the Ikemba is no longer whom he used to be. He’s human and it’s the fate of all human beings, including you Bianca, to age and eventually die. But the Ikemba is not an ordinary man.
He’s a tiger and I bet you married him because of a profound love and respect for him. But recent events are making us Ndigbo and in fact well-meaning Nigerians to wonder whether you married him because you loved and cared about him or because you saw in him a ticket to continue to live out your quest for power. You are the daughter of a former governor of Anambra State. You know politics and you probably know what good can come from knowing influential people. Your Ikemba made a few failed attempts to becoming the president of Nigeria. Did you always see yourself as one day emerging a first lady of Nigeria? Were you willing to do anything to make this happen? Are you always ready to defy anyone (and this would now include your own father) to stay in the public arena? While I believe that you are very qualified, judging from your educational background and your personal achievements, to hold the post given to you, I don’t think this is the best time for you to do this. Bianca, this is a wrong time to take up an appointment in Abuja when your husband is lying critically ill in a London hospital. But I am being practical here.
Does your family need the money from the potential salary you will earn? I mean your immediate family? Do you have enough financial support for your young children? And if not, is this position the only means of sustaining you and your family? While we can’t speak for the sick, it is alleged that the Ikemba was against you accepting an earlier offer the President made to you. Are you now not defying your husband in accepting this offer now? Don’t you even wonder about the integrity and wisdom of a man who would defy another man’s wish just because he’s ill? Chei! Ukwu ejiela agu, mgbada abiala ya ugwo!! Have you wondered what the Ikemba would say if he were healthy and strong? Do you think he would have allowed you to accept this offer? Are you abandoning him now because he can’t help himself? Is your action not considerably opportunistic? Are you not acting like a gold digger? Does this not show that you possibly care more about power than the people in your life? Ufufe o feela a hu ike okuku? Bianca nwanne m nwaanyi, please don’t shame Igbo women.
Umuada Igbo are ashamed of a woman who will abandon a sick husband for power. Personally, I could care less whether your husband was the Ikemba or not. While you are an adult who should continue with her life despite extenuating events, you are right now the wife of a very sick man. What are you coming to tell Nigerian women in Diaspora? In case you didn’t know, our women in the Diaspora are notorious for having forgotten our “African culture.” Now, tell me what you are coming to share with people in the Diaspora. Are you coming to embolden the women who would leave their husbands in the lurch just because they aren’t rich, strong, and powerful as before? Please don’t come to see us, because we will BOO on you. We don’t want to completely forget who we are because we are in obodo oyibo. Please go and take care of your man. Stay with him and grant him the respect and dignity that he deserves in the last few months and years of his life. You have endured well all this time. Please endure well to the end. If it’s God’s will, a better position will be waiting for you at the right time. Don’t be in haste and spoil the respect we have for you. Power corrupts and absolute power corrupts absolutely. We don’t want history to remember you as the opportunistic wife of the Ikemba of Nnewi. You are a beautiful adaigbo.
But you have the choice to ignore all of us and tell us to mind our own business. In case, you didn’t know it’s women who abandon their husbands that Umuada or Umuokpu will discipline and even ostracize from the community. The fact that we are Nigerians doesn’t take away our indigenous culture. Yes, I know it’s Igbo culture for a woman to wait on her husband. I have a Bachelor’s degree in Igbo, if that will at least help you understand where I’m coming from. I have a master’s degree in Dispute Resolution and currently pursuing further graduate education. But I know that as we say in Igboland, “Ugwu nwanyi bu di ya,” and a doctorate degree won’t take the place of a happy home. No success outside compensates for failure at home. As a single woman in her early thirties, I am praying for someone worthy to call “di m.” It’s a privilege to find a man who has accepted all your idiosyncrasies to call you “nwunye m,” “Omasiri m.” The Ikemba has adorned you with all he has please don’t shame him now. I wouldn’t know of any marital problems you had with him prior to his illness. But on behalf of Umuadaigbo, I’m pleading that you forgive him and allow him some dignity in distress. If you received permission to accept this and similar offers from the Ikemba before he became critically ill, please let us know. Otherwise, we will believe that you are defying the intention of an ill man, and that you are a very power-hungry woman. I am not preaching from a morality stool. I’m not perfect and make no such claims to it. It’s not just about morality, it’s about African culture and common sense.
This isn’t a question of you not having the right to do whatsoever you wish with your life. It is about doing the right thing. I have been called a feminist, but believe me feminism has nothing to do with this. Questions to be asked would include, “What if you were a man; would you have been asked to tend to a sick wife?” I will leave others to answer these questions. I am very happy for you and the position you were offered. I believe that you can perform optimally and serve the country in this and other capacities. But ask yourself, “How would I feel if the coin were flipped?” Do you think the Ikemba would abandon you at your worst moment? I think not. You have done us proud in the past and we are counting on you being the Amazon that you have always been. You will be fine and blessed of the Lord. Jisie ike, nwanne m nwanyi. Tell the president, “Thank you, but no thanks for now.” It’s not just about you. It’s about all of us. United we stand; divided we fall. Not just because we are Ndigbo, but we are human beings that have emotional intelligence to choose love and loyalty over expediency and politics. I wish you well. Thank you for reading this letter.
Sincerely,
Ijeoma M Njoku
Dallas, Texas
On behalf of Umuadaigbo and well-meaning Nigerians.








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